Do you hear shark music?
I was talking to a friend about a recent family visit and she commented that her “shark music” played a lot more than she would have liked. I Haven’t heard the metaphor of shark music before, and it immediately made so much sense to me. We label situations where we are subconsciously, or consciously acting […]
Tame the Flames: Don’t Let Conflict Burn Your Business
Fire is a powerful tool, but uncontrolled, it becomes destructive. So is conflict! Conflict can be your ally: Disagreements, like embers, can spark creativity and better decisions. But left unchecked, they turn into raging infernos. Early intervention is key: Addressing conflict early, like extinguishing a small fire, minimizes damage. Don’t wait for a meltdown! Prevention […]
Mediation as a liberating tool
Most people think of mediation as a peacemaker. Yet there are also other situations in which in main value of mediation is in bringing movement into a situation that is otherwise stuck. I was involved in several such cases. What I noticed was that discontinuing an employment relationship was considered, or even secretly desired, by […]
Pre- Mediation more than a bandaid
What does solving a (potential) conflict bring?
Practical example – How does a pre mediation session look like?
The case: “What it means to be the main co-founder and how this may change when the startup is growing”. A startup with two co-founders, one of whom was the ‘main’ partner, with more equity and being the CEO. The startup was growing fast and they already had about 15 employees. Towards the workers both […]
Cardboard Outcut
Do you recognize the phenomenon that people you know from the past, assume you are still acting in a certain way because they think they know you? In reality you have grown as a person, you have learned from life or changed the way you look at things. You do not fit that old picture, […]
What our clients say
Annemarie and Roelof of Partner-Mediation have assisted in our mediation process last year. They are very knowledgeable and know how to create an atmosphere where everyone feels safe to share, discuss and initiate ideas/options how to resolve the situation.It was extremely helpful to have two mediators assisting in this often difficult and painful process. This has its effect on the group dynamics. […]
The fundament of your start-up part 1: Evaluating the cap table
Building a company with your Co Founders asks for a good and thorough fundament. One of the most discussed themes in Pre Mediation sessions (online or live), is the Cap Table. The Cap Table represents almost everything; how you relate, how you to decide, how you distinguish between shareholders in terms of added value (ideas, […]
Escalation of commitment
Did you ever overinvest in a failing project, or put enormous effort in trying to change the behavior of a toxic team member instead of saying goodbye? Or stayed too long in an unhealthy (business) relationship? Or struggled to walk away from an abusive boss? Probably we all have some experience with this phenomenon. It […]
Conflict is inevitable, combat is optional
All (business) partners fight now and then. It is how and when they regulate the potential conflict, repair the relationship after the conversation started to get heated and restore connection after a ‘regrettable incident’, that makes the difference and determines if the relationship stays healthy (Gottman Institute, 2020). What does it mean to regulate, restore […]
